Sunday, March 9, 2014

Am I Disabled?

This is my son Kyle.  If you follow my other blog Pam's Party and Practical Tips, or read my first post on this blog (which will soon be on an About Me page),  you will know that he has Aspergers Syndrome.  We were very lucky in how we found out in stages when he was young, and that he has always been able to get any extra help that he has needed along the way.   Things are a bit different now. He doesn't need much help anymore, but at times  things can be difficult for him. 

A few days ago we had an interesting conversation.... Out of the blue, he asked me, "Mom, am I disabled?".   I was very surprised that he asked me that.   I posted how I responded to his question  on my personal  Facebook page, and I got such a positive response by family and friends, I know I said something right.  I feel that maybe  I should share it here, in case it could help anyone else with Aspergers  who might be wondering the same thing. 

This is what I said to him.. 

While Aspergers might make things harder for him  sometimes, having it does not make you disabled.  You have the ability to be anything you want to be, and do anything that you want to do.  In fact, Aspergers  gives you special abilities that the average person does not have. He is able to see and understand things in a different way.  He is also one of the most intelligent people that I know, something that will help him throughout life. He has a gift for math, and taught himself how to add and subtract before kindergarten.  He is able to solve complex problems in his head, and is getting As in Algebra 2 as a freshman without even trying.    He also has the ability to stay focused for long periods of time on things that he really enjoys, like video games. This may also help him in life, because he is able to beat almost any game, and is considering being a video game designer.   

Then to drive my point home, I opened up a web page that had a list of famous people with Aspergers . Even though I have shown him a list  before, this time he seemed to really listen and understand.  Maybe it's because he is older now, and has learned about most of these people in school. I have to say that we were both very surprised by a few people on the list.   While there is no way to know positively if  some of these historical people had Aspergers, it is "speculated" by basing their known behaviors/mannerisms based on current DSM criteria. 

Abraham Lincoln - Considered to be one of the best Presidents to ever lead our country 

Albert Einstein - Considered to be one of the 20th centuries greatest minds, and one of the most influential scientists of all time 

Benjamin Franklin - a founding father, and according to, a writer, inventor, businessman, musician, scientist, genius and more.. 

George Washington - we were surprised by this one!  Not only is he a founding father of our country, he it's very first President  

Henry Ford - an inventor and  industrialist who is a major reason why we are a country obsessed with the automobile 

Issac Newton -  a mathematician and physicist who is another extremely influential scientist. Having a daughter in 11th grade Physics, I know his name name well 

Thomas Edison - One of the most prolific inventors of all time, and the reason why we enjoy so many modern convenience of today   

Mark Twain - A great writer and story teller..  He also happens to be a distant relative 

Charles Schultz - Considered to be one of the most influential cartoonists who wrote/drew Peanuts, one of the most beloved cartoons 

(All three of these modern day extremely successful men, have Asperger traits in common, and are "speculated" to have it.  Even though we do not know for sure, it is not a bad thing to be possibly grouped with them) 

Bill Gates - Entrepreneur, philanthropist, founder of Microsoft and richest person in the world.   

Steve Jobs- Founder of Apple, and hugely influential in how we communicate today 

Mark Zuckerburg - Founder of Facebook, and a billionaire while still in his 20s  

We talked about several people who were on the list.  When we were done, I saw him stand a little bit taller, and get a huge smile on his face.  He now  sees that he is in really good company, and capable of many great things. I just hope he remembers his mom when he earns his first billion someday. :)  


  1. Such a good response Pam! I applaud you and know that you are such a good mom :-)

  2. Such an awesome way to reply to your son and I completely agree with what you said! What a great mom you are :)

  3. Pam, My 10 year old grandson also has been diagnosed with Asperger's syndrome. He is an amazing little boy and excels in math and absolutely is obsessed with video games also. He is able to do a full page of math and hold a conversation about something he loves at the same time and never miss a problem.. Amazes me. He has had a rough road but, now that he has been diagnosed - he has all the aide and assistance he needs and life is becoming so much better for him and his family. I love the way you approached this - we have also pointed these things out to our grandson and will continiue to let him know that he is not alone in this world. Thank you for sharing Cathy

  4. Pam how wonderful you are a great Mom.

  5. Disabled? No, they have super powers!

  6. You are an amazing mom :) Love this! Sharing all over the place!